Now today’s topic ladies will be going to go into a little bit more than the typical, “Don’t forget to use a condom” talk. It’s going to be about how a woman can take control of the situation (without being on top). I will not only by looking at heterosexual sex but I will also by critiquing Cosmopolitan (a magazine) specifically the sex section.

Welcome to the new and improved sex education. First off I would like to critique the magazine Cosmopolitan. When looking online at their sex positions all of the categories have a fun little blurb about how the men will enjoy the moves that you do. The only place where the magazine talks about the women is at the very end of the mini, instructional paragraph. Cosmopolitan is a magazine for women yet it is all about how women can please their man or how to get a man. Who is anyone to tell us that the only way to live our lives and be happy is to have a man by our size who is pleased with our performance? Secondly, whoever said the only way for women to be controlling in the bedroom was by being on top was seriously mistaken. While reading the article Having It All Ways: The Tourist, the Traveler, and the Local in The L Word written by Candice Moore states, “It is Jenny who structures, and, ultimately, controls the sex play with Tim. A writer, delighting in creating a scene, she writes him into Shane’s role, herself into the role of Shane’s lover. She sets things up so that she can come.” After reading this quotes I realized that a women could be in any position, top or bottom, and still have control over the situation. Although the control may be subtle it is still control. As stated in the previous blog if women cannot take control in the bedroom how can they take control in the real world? What does control mean for homosexuals in bed? Does one female where the “pants” over the other? Or is it as simple as taking turns. I think it is all about preference but I think, even in a homosexual relationship, both people need to demonstrate some sort of dominance. If you as a woman want to be on top then be on top. I cannot stress this enough but do what you want and do what makes you happy. As selfish as it sounds, sex is about you. I am not saying it is not important to make the other person satisfied, but it is important that you are.